What to Do When Your Husband Loses His Erection: A Real Conversation with Dr. Viviana
This week, I’m answering a powerful and vulnerable question submitted through Ask Dr. Viviana:
“It’s such a turn-off when my husband loses his erection. What can I do?”
🎥 Watch the real video conversation here:
https://youtu.be/8KAh1ox-w34
This was a real video chat (shared with full permission), and I want to be clear — this is not clinical or therapeutic advice. The individual in the video is not a psychotherapy client. But this question is so common in long-term relationships that I knew it deserved to be addressed openly and compassionately.
If Your Husband Loses His Erection, Here’s What You Can Do
Performance changes — like losing an erection — can be distressing for both partners, but they’re also incredibly normal. In this video, I walk through:
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Why erections can be impacted by stress, pressure, or emotional disconnection
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How to shift away from “performance mode” and focus on intimacy instead
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What to say (and not say) when it happens
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Why shame and silence make the situation worse — and what to try instead
The goal is to stay connected even when things don’t go as planned. It’s not about perfection. It’s about creating safety and pleasure in the moment — together.
Want More Support with Intimacy?
If this conversation hits home, you are NOT alone. That’s why I created resources to help:
🛍️ My VIVID Fantasy Intimate Couples Kit – A great way to take the pressure off and explore together.
🧠 The 4 Intimacy Styles Quiz – Understand what kind of connection feels natural for you and your partner.
💬 Book a session with one of our licensed therapists if you want expert support.
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