Dr. Viviana answers all your Married At First Sight Questions.
Dr. Viviana Coles has been playing matchmaker on “Married at First Sight” ever since Season 9. As a licensed relationship and sex expert with her own private practice, she has a lot of experience to pull from to make the perfect pairings for the reality series.
Coles meets with the hundreds of candidates hoping to be cast, and it takes her months of getting to know each one before personally picking out their special someone. Because of that, the entire process is pretty personal to her. In fact, she sometimes even cries along with the couples who decide a divorce is best on Decision Day.
We sat down with Dr. Viv, who divulged a lot more details about what it’s like behind the scenes of “Married at First Sight” and her new spin-off series “Married at First Sight: Unmatchables.” From the characteristics she looks for in a successful couple to how the series has affected her feelings toward her own marriage, she told all in an exclusive interview.
Why Dr. Viviana Coles originally wanted to be a part of Married at First Sight
I was doing some reading that you were actually the one who approached the production company to be a part of a show that revolved around relationships. What is it specifically about “Married at First Sight” that made you want to be involved?
It’s so radical and real. Those are the draws. It’s not something that you even have to really try to make it something that people want to invest in, because in and of itself, I think marriage is super interesting. It’s what I do all the time. I’m always working with clients. That’s something that I think is very interesting: the dynamics of marriage.
But then, to just make it something that is so radical, like marrying a complete stranger on TV, to have documentation of it — maybe it happens all the time, but it’s not documented. The marriage piece, the reality piece, and then, of course, that it’s documented, because that’s a whole other factor, that someone — I see clients all the time, but we don’t document their stories. If we did, they would look very different.
And we never really know how they’re going to respond. But I’ve often said, “I wish I had a camera in your house for that argument,” and they’re like, “Oh, my gosh, us too, because I said this, and he said this,” and they’re like, “No, you didn’t. You said this,” but to have it on camera, these breakthroughs, arguments, silence, all of that is something that I just think is so powerful. It’s a powerful education tool. It’s a powerful deterrent at times.