Dr. Viviana weighs in on how sleeping separately can spice up your sex life.
This husband and wife improved their boom-boom by sleeping in separate bedrooms.
Terri-Ann Michelle, a married mother of three, unwittingly sparked a now-viral social media controversy after revealing that she and her husband, Jamie, “improved” their sex life by sleeping in different beds, in different rooms of their house.
“Our [love-making] is actually better because we’re both getting better sleep, and it puts us in better moods,” Michelle, 32, told The Post.
“And we’ve made it more exciting by coming up with fun ways to be intimate. Afterward, we’re like, ‘OK, it’s time for bed,’ and sleep in our separate rooms,” she added, noting that they do share their master suite on weekends.
Michelle, a hairdresser and stay-at-home mom who lives in a six-bedroom house in Ontario, Canada, briefed her over 20,000 TikTok followers on her bizarre boudoir arrangements Tuesday.
“I know a lot of people will disagree with this, but I don’t care,” she penned in the closed captions of her trending clip — which has racked up over 143,000 views. “My husband and I don’t sleep in the same bed (during the week) and it made our intimate relationship BETTER!”
And experts agree that a bedroom breakup can profoundly enhance a pair’s romance.
“Choosing to sleep in separate beds, and even separate rooms, in order to increase the quality and frequency of great sleep is a wonderful way to enhance your sex life, because it also puts a big emphasis on your own physical health,” “Married at First Sight” sex and relationship expert Viviana Coles explained to The Post. “And anything that you can do to increase and improve your physical health enhances your sexual health.”
Coles, author of “The 4 Intimacy Styles,” went on to champion the non-traditional sleeping craze for its lusty bond-building benefits.
“Looking forward to spending some quality and intentionally focused time with your partner can get people‘s anticipatory reactions going, and that tends to ignite a person’s physical and psychological arousal,” she told The Post. “And it does broaden a couple’s ability to roleplay and have novel [sexual] experiences, which in a long-term committed monogamous relationship, can be hard to come by.”
And TikTok commentators approved of the unconventional mattress mix-up, too.
“My husband and I have separate rooms it was the best decision ever,” said one backer of the separate bedrooms trend. “OMG US TOO! I’ve almost felt embarrassed for people to know, people judge. think it’s weird. New business & new baby! we had to do something! Sleep!,” chimed another.
However, a handful of harsh-talking haters bashed the unorthodox bunking fad, scribing snide remarks like: “I can’t sleep without my husband. He can’t sleep well without me. I’ll keep it that way. It doesn’t make much sense to not sleep together,” and, “Nope I married my husband for better or worse. I can’t imagine not having him in our bed. I would miss him.”
But Michelle and Jamie — a business owner who wakes up before dawn each day — first began sleeping separately five years ago after they welcomed their oldest son, and have since lived happily ever after.
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