Dr. Viviana talks with Mud Mosh to give some tips for married couples on bringing romantic passion into the bedroom.
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For many married couples the romantic passion that existed at the beginning of marriage fades later on in years. For tips on how a married couple can bring the romantic passion back into the bedroom, I have interviewed psychotherapist Viviana Coles DMFT.
Tell me a little bit about yourself.
“I am a Doctor of Marriage and Family Therapy, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist in private practice in Houston, Texas. I’ve been practicing for 8 years and am happily married with children.”
What often happens to the romantic passion for couples that have been married for a long time?
“Couples often report that the passion they had for one another and for sexual pleasure drastically decreases past the 1-year mark of their relationships. They often do not address the discrepancy until much later on in the relationship because “life” distracts them. Couples often come to me at the point in their relationship when “life” has settled down and they bring their focus back to their relationship and discover that they are in very different places emotionally and intimately.”
What are some tips for married couples on bringing romantic passion into the bedroom?
“It’s all about taking the time to make one another feel special and desired. Each couple has its own “passion style” and it’s up to each person to find out what each spouse is looking for as far as pleasure and fulfillment. Oftentimes, spouses erroneously assume that the same thing that worked for their spouse at the beginning of their relationship is what gives them pleasure and fulfillment much later on. It’s important to communicate openly about what psychologically and physically turns them on now. I would also recommend offering positive feedback when trying new things in the bedroom.”