In an interview with Romper, Married at First Sight expert Dr. Viviana discusses some of the challenges couples face on the show.
I have long held the belief that the hardest part about living with your partner is, well, living with your partner. And one of the three experts on Married at First Sight Season 9, basically confirmed my theory in a phone interview ahead of the new season premiere. New Married at First Sight expert, psychotherapist Dr. Viviana Coles, says the couples had a lot of the same issues she sees in her private practice clients — one of those being learning to live with another person.
Of course, in this situation, the couples have no loving foundation to fall back on. On the show, couples are set up by a team of relationship experts that include Coles, Pastor Calvin Robertson, and Dr. Pepper Schwartz. They are then introduced to one another on their wedding day and for the next eight weeks must attempt to live as a real life married couple.
So on the show, instead of compromising on dishwasher loading styles for the sake of a person you love, you’re supposed to learn to love somebody who, for example, throws their socks at the laundry hamper at the end of the day but always misses and then just leaves them lying on the floor in front of the hamper for days (this is a hypothetical scenario).
Coles says:
We kind of take it for granted that people will figure it out when it comes to moving in together; that they’ll each find their own space, and their own space to retreat for “me time,” or that they’ll be able to kind of reconcile the way that they clean or don’t clean, the amount of time that they spend away from the house, or even just the amount of time that they spend eating at home.
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